Aries: The Nighttime, Daytime, Multitasking, Take-Charge, Do-It-All Zodiac Sign

“Hi, my name is Jen M…”hellojen
My Aries brethren, in welcoming unison: “Hi, Jen.”
“…and I’m an Aries.”

Enter a deep sigh of relief. After all, acknowledging one has a problem is half the proverbial battle.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I’ve said it to death: none of us are pure Sun signs. (Yes, that includes you.) We have Ascendants and Moons and planets — oh my! — all of which serve to modify our Sun in various ways, depending upon the respective zodiac signs by which each of those are ruled, their aspects to one another in the natal chart, and so on. But as my trusty Aquarian tree amigo likes to remind me, the Sun always shines, and for today at least, we’re gonna take a closer look at a Sun sign, save the effects of any other factors in the chart.

Why start with Aries? My reasons are twofold. Yes, I admit it: one reason is because I happen to have been born a Ram. But my second reason for beginning with Aries is because it also happens to be the first sign of the zodiac, so my bias is justified (as I keep telling myself. No worries, Bull folk: you’re second in line, so I’ll pick on y’all next. You’re welcome.)

ariestraitsFirst, let’s start with the basics of the sign of the Ram. I’ll go out on a limb and guess that if you know anything whatsoever about astrology, particularly Sun signs, you’re at least somewhat familiar with the traits of an Aries. If you are married to, friends with, in a relationship with, work with, gave birth to, were created by, or are an Aries, you undoubtedly have enough knowledge on this subject to write your own article (or horror story, as the case may be.) But I digress…

Aries is a fire sign. This statement should be self-explanatory, but just in case it’s got you scratching your head, asking, “what in fresh hell does that even mean?!”, allow me to briefly explain. There are four elements in astrology (fire, earth, air, and water), and each element holds sway over three signs. Each element brings with it its own qualities which it imparts into the Sun sign it governs. In the case of Aries’ ruler, fire, we see traits such as sudden bursts of energy, a quick temper (that, fortunately, subsides equally quickly), passion, and flashes of inspiration.

Aries is also a cardinal sign. There are three qualities associated with the zodiac signs: cardinal, mutable, and fixed. Each of these govern four signs, and Aries falls under the cardinal quality. This imparts additional traits including assertiveness and a stick-to-itiveness which means they’ll dig their heels in and persevere until they achieve their goals…and don’t even think about telling them they can’t do it. They will be more than happy to prove you wrong.

Some of the more common qualities associated with the sign of Aries include (but oh good lord, are certainly not limited to) the following:

  • impatience (oh, don’t I know it…)
  • jealousy — not necessarily as a result of low self-esteem, but more from a desire to be the center of attention
  • competitiveness…and I mean really, really competitive: Aries must be the best in everything they do
  • spontaneity and nearly-instantaneous decision-making
  • leadership; a need to be their own boss
  • extreme stubbornness and determination
  • complete, unshakable loyalty to friends and family
  • adventurous in the bedroom (you’ve been warned…)
  • a love of the outdoors and/or sports
  • generosity, sometimes to a fault (hint: just shut up and let Aries pick up the check. We want to.)
  • a tendency to get in a hurry and/or take unnecessary risks (drive too fast, jump out of perfectly good airplanes, etc.)skydiving
  • taking on many responsibilities at once
  • and way too many more to list here…

No, not every trait will apply across the board to every Aries on Earth (due to modifications of our Sun qualities by other aforementioned chart factors.) But stubborn Ram that I am, I assure you, these qualities will be present, to one degree or another, in just about every Aries with whom you cross paths.

Because I am an Aries (did I already mention that?), I’ll use my own personality traits as an example here (and try my damndest not to mention the modifying effects of my Pisces Ascendant and Aquarius Moon on my Aries Sun.) So here goes. If you are a fellow Ram or have one in your life, see if you can relate to some of my experiences. If so, I’d love it if you would share them in the comments section.(After all, we have to stick together!)

  • spongebob multitaskAt this time in my life, I am attending school (both online and on-campus) in pursuit of a degree in surgical technology and nursing by spring 2017. In addition to maintaining an A average, I answer astrological questions which my clients, as well as fellow astrologers, email to me, create and interpret natal charts for new clients, create flip-flops which are made-to-order (for more info/pics, shoot me an email at BornUnderABlondeSign@gmail.com), am a registered mystery shopper, produce video presentations for birthdays, anniversaries, memorial services, births, and just about any occasion imaginable (for info, please email me at the above address; to view some of my creations, visit my YouTube channel, to which there is a link at the top of this page), work as a publicist and editor for acclaimed up-and-coming author A.L. LaFleur and her amazing series of books which, of course, I highly recommend (you can follow her on Twitter and add her on Google+ as well, and be sure to check out her books on Amazon). All of this in addition to homework, daily workouts at Planet Fitness (for nearly two years now), traveling to Kansas on a semi-regular basis to help my lovely (if a bit disorganized) Libra mother-in-law and visit my awesome Sadge son and his amazing Leo fiancee, annual trips to West Virginia to visit my deceased ex-Cancer hubs’s family, and last but certainly not least, heading out to Arizona two to three times a year to visit my beautiful Scorpio daughter and her husband and family, including my nearly-8 year-old incredible Libra grandson and my
    My precious lil Pisces & Libra grandbabies

    My precious lil Pisces & Libra grandbabies

    relatively new, 7 month-old, perfectly gorgeous Pisces granddaughter. Whew! And I haven’t even mentioned gardening, spending time with my Cancer-Gemini cusp hubs, cooking, the daily household grind, and if you think for one second I’m going to miss an episode of anything involving Gordon Ramsay, you’re out of your mind. So yeah. Lotsa irons in the proverbial fire and endless multitasking for this Ram. But I wouldn’t have it any other way. I thrive under pressure.

  • I have a terrible time letting anyone pick up a check when we are out on the town, be it a lunch date or in the club inhaling margaritas. However, because my video production “company” isn’t called Struggling Student Productions because it’s a catchy name, I’ve been able to relax a little bit with that lately…knowing that there will come a day when I will be able — and more than happy — to overspend on anyone who paid my way. My Aries pride will simply have it no other way.
  • lightningThere are few things I enjoy more than being outdoors (except for winter!) I love opening the windows on the first bright, warm spring day and letting the scents of budding life waft through my home, enjoying and chasing the severe storms/tornadoes which are a fact of life in my neck of the woods in the springtime. During the summer, my perfect day is spent poolside (or lakeside, feeling the indescribable bliss of the sun’s warmth on my skin in contrast to the cool water. And in autumn, I’m mesmerized by thefallleaves palette of nature’s earthy colors on the falling leaves, cool evenings snuggled up in a hoodie with a beer around a bonfire, and watching as my Sooners (almost) invariably annihilate whichever team in their conference against which they’re playing. BOOMER SOONER!boomersooner
  • My bucket list includes jumping out of that aforementioned perfectly good airplane, and the rumors are true: I have a lead foot. Damn Aries impatience…

Need I go on? Probably not.

But with all its foibles, the benefits of being born a Ram are pretty damn sweet. We’re tenacious, protective of those we love, the life of any party, and when one of us enters a room, you know it. That’s not necessarily a bad thing.aries

In fact, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Some famous Aries include…

  • Lady Gaga

    Lady Gaga

    Lady Gaga

  • Emma Watson
  • Robert Downey, Jr.

    Robert Downey, Jr.

    Robert Downey, Jr.

  • Kourtney Kardashian
  • Peyton Manning
  • Jennifer Garner
  • Jim Parsons

    Jim Parsons

    Jim Parsons

  • Quentin Tarantino
  • Pharrell Williams
  • Akon
  • Mike Henry
  • David Letterman

 

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Beyond The Sun: Lesser Known Factors In Compatibility

imagesCA0NI3AAI’ve always been intrigued by which Sun signs are considered to be compatible with one another, as well as which ones don’t quite mesh. As a teenager, whenever I had the hots for a guy, the first thing I would do after finding out when his birthday was, was to dig through my books on astrology. Daydreaming about eventually marrying and bearing the children of whomever happened to be my current object of affection, I whiled away many an hour reading chapters on “Aries and Virgo” (yikes), “Aries and Libra” (pass), “Aries and Sagittarius” (yay!)…and the list goes on and on. (If internet had been available in the mid-1980s, I’d have been an unstoppable force!)

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But first, before diving in to this regularly scheduled post, how ’bout a game? It’s time to play…What’s My Sign? ! *insert thunderous applause & enthusiastic roars from the reading audience here*

In What’s My Sign?, we’ll observe two different couples interacting in…oh, I don’t know…let’s say the grocery store. Based on their conversations, using your knowledge of the general personality traits of each Sun sign (i.e., indecisive Libra, anything-goes Aquarius, me-me-me Leo, etc.), you’ll get to guess which Sun sign best fits each person!

So…are you ready to demonstrate your astrological skills (or lack thereof) and play What’s My Sign? Of course you are! Let’s get started!

SCENARIO #1:
Woman: Oooh! Look, honey: Brand Name paper towels are 3 for $5.00! (grabs 3 packages and throws in shopping cart)

Man: (visually searching other shelves) But the Store Brand paper towels over here are 3 for $3.00; let’s get them instead. Two dollars is a pretty big savings. (puts back Brand Name paper towels, replaces with Store Brand)

Woman: Well, right; but Brand Name has more paper towels per roll than Store Brand, plus they’re more absorbent so we use fewer sheets at a time. Brand Name is clearly a better deal. (puts Store Brand back on shelf; replaces with Brand Name)

Man: (exasperated sigh) You know what, this right here is why we’re broke…you’re always buying bullshit we don’t even need and you don’t care how much it costs! 

Woman: No, I’m not; you’re just a tight-ass! Brand Name is a better deal! We’ll use less because it’s better quality; if we buy Store Brand, we’ll just blow right through ’em cuz we hafta use more of it!

Man: You know what; whatever, I don’t even care, do what you want. You don’t care about me or what I think…

Woman: Oh my God, seriously? Goddamn, you are such a baby; grow the fuck up! (briefly pauses) Wait; you know what; fuck it! (puts Brand Name back on shelf, replaces with Store Brand) There! Happy?

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SCENARIO #2:

Woman: Oooh! Look, honey: Brand Name paper towels are 3 for $5.00! (grabs 3 packages off shelf and throws in shopping cart)

Man: (visually searching other shelves) Hmmm…wait, Store Brand is 3 for $3.00; we should get those. Two bucks is a pretty big difference. (unloads & puts back Brand Name paper towels, replaces with Store Brand)

Woman: Well yeah, but Brand Name has more paper towels per roll, plus they’re more absorbent so we use less…Store Brand is…well, you get what you pay for.

Man: (ponders this) Hmmm…I never thought of it like that. Okay, well how about this: let’s buy one Brand Name; at least that way we don’t spend the full $5.00 buying all three. We don’t need three anyway.

Woman: Okay, works for me. (puts two Brand Name back on shelf)imagesCA0GTPGY

Any guesses yet? Anyone? *crickets chirping*

Okay then, for those of you who think you’ve nailed the Sun signs of the folks in these two couples, stand by for a moment while the rest of the class dissects the interactions we just read about and see at which conclusions we can arrive.

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So, grasshoppers: let’s start by looking for some basic personality traits we see in each of these couples. For example, when we consider the woman’s statements and actions in scenario #1, we see someone who is impulsive in her actions (quick decision on what to purchase) as well as impulsive in her words, in addition to being fairly blunt and stubborn, yet she is also somewhat of a martyr (in the end, she lets the man “win” although he never explicitly states she can’t buy the Brand Name) The man in scenario #1 appears to be overly sensitive and less stubborn than the woman, also exhibiting some martyrdom tendencies (he never actually tells the woman “no” in regard to her product preference) and bluntness.

Observing the woman in scenario #2,  we once again see some impulsive tendencies, less concern for overall cost than product quality, and definitely some tendency to be stubborn, yet she is also willing to compromise. Looking at the man in the same scenario, we can see that he is cost-conscious and perhaps a bit stubborn, but when the woman points out her reasoning for buying the more expensive product, he is flexible and open-minded enough to reconsider his decision when presented with new information.

With which Sun sign(s) are each of their personality traits more associated. Ready for the answers? Let’s see how you fared:

Scenario #1: our woman is an Aries, and our man is a Cancer.
Scenario #2: our woman is an Aries, and our man is a Cancer.

Generally speaking, fire and water Sun signs aren't compatible. This doesn't mean it's guaranteed to be doomed, though; we must consider the Moon & Ascendant.

Generally speaking, fire and water Sun signs aren’t compatible. This doesn’t mean it’s guaranteed to be doomed, though; we must also consider the Moon & Ascendant.

You heard me. No, that’s not a typo, nor did I get a bit too enthusiastic with the copy & paste.

Not only are the two women in these scenarios Rams and the men Crabs, but the two women aren’t even “two women” at all. They’re the same woman: me. The man in scenario #1 is based on my late Cancer ex-husband, and the man in scenario #2 is based on my current Cancer man. I created the scenarios like this to demonstrate a point: the usual Sun sign compatibility descriptions you’re probably familiar with are frequently about as generic and useless as the daily horoscopes you find in the local newspaper. This is because compatibility assessments often only consider the Sun sign of each partner – and nothing more. And in the same way your daily horoscope will be much more specific and accurate if you obtain a personalized one, so too will your compatibility descriptions. What this means is that — although generally speaking — Aries and Cancer aren’t a compatible couple, it’s not a virtual certainty that they’re destined for divorce court. Another way to look at this is to consider that Aries and Leo are traditionally considered to be pretty compatible. However, by the same token, this couple isn’t necessarily guaranteed to live happily ever after. There are many more aspects that must be taken into account…and this is where the above scenarios come into play.

imagesCAEFXAAGThings in common
Just ain’t a one…
But when we get together
We have nothin’ but fun. ~ Paula Abdul, “Opposites Attract”

Let’s take another look at our analysis of scenario #1, shall we? The traits we observe in their interaction, such as the woman’s Arien impulsivity and bluntness, as well as the man’s Cancerian hypersensitivity and moodiness, are all textbook qualities of their respective signs. But what about the martyrdom tendencies we observe in both partners? Martyrdom is a very common Aquarian trait, not something usually seen in a Ram or a Crab. However, my late ex-husband and I both have Moons in Aquarius. Furthermore, we both have Pisces Ascendants. Therefore, when considering compatibility in a couple (or potential couple), we must look beyond the Sun sign and also factor in the Ascendant and Moon sign. (NOTE: Other factors in compatibility that come into play include the aspects, which are the angles of the planets in one partner’s natal chart in relation to the angles of the planets formed in the other partner’s chart…but this is a bit more advanced, so it’s something we’ll delve into later on. In the meantime, if you’d like some information on how that works, you can read about it here.)

For instance — again, generally speaking — it is true that fire Sun signs and water Sun signs (such as in the case of Aries and Cancer) don’t mix. However, for a more accurate and complete compatibility assessment, each partner’s Ascendant and Moon should also be taken into consideration, as they always modify the Sun sign in some way. As I mentioned above, my late Cancer ex-husband and I both have Moons in Aquarius and Pisces Ascendants. In our relationship, the influence of an easy-breezy Aquarius Moon on his home-loving Cancer Sun modified the usual strong Cancerian desire for stability, which made him more open to enjoying new adventures, travel, and spontaneity, and easier to adapt to change than the more-typical change-resistant Crab. Likewise, the effect of my own easy-breezy Aquarius Moon on my self-centered Aries Sun modified the usual Arien “me first” tendency, which means I’m more likely to elevate the needs of others above my own than the typical it’s-all-about-me Ram would. A Pisces Ascendant lends a sentimental quality to the personality which, in the case of my Cancer ex-husband, made him even more sentimental and with an even stronger draw to the past than the already-quite sentimental Crab; where for me, it softens and adds sentimentality to the usual — nauseated by all things mushy-gushy — Aries Sun.

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Moving on, now let’s shift focus to our analysis of scenario #2, where the man represents my current relationship with a Cancer. How is it that two Crabs can be so different? Here’s how, which in turn explains why the interaction on a more positive note. First of all, the Aries woman in scenario #2 was less stubborn and more flexible than the Aries woman in the first scenario. This is because Cancer man #2, for starters, is actually so close to the Gemini-Cancer cusp — just over four hours — that he exhibits a great deal of Geminian traits, some of which include adaptability, flexibility, and a slight emotional detachment…where Cancer man #1 — who is nowhere near a cusp — behaved more like…well, like a Cancer, than Cancer man #2. Additionally, Aries and Gemini are traditionally considered to be quite compatible. Cancer man #2 has a Taurus Moon, which precludes him to stubbornness more so than Cancer man #1’s Aquarius Moon, which instead instilled in him a streak of martyrdom. Finally, Cancer man #2 has a Leo Ascendant, which modifies his Cancer-cusp Sun away from the depressive moodiness of the common Crab.

So to summarize, your Sun sign is the essence of who you are; it’s what makes you you. Your Ascendant is your public persona; the mask you wear, if you will; it’s the way in which you are perceived by others. And your Moon sign is representative of how you tend to express yourself (or not, as the case may be) emotionally. And it’s those three factors that, when combined, will ultimately reveal just how compatible the two of you really are…or aren’t.

So if you’re a Cancer who has recently met the most awesome Aries in all the land (congratulations) and you came to my site to get the scoop on how well-suited you are to one another, but now you’re feeling a bit bummed that, for all intents and purposes, yours is a match made in Hades, fear not, sensitive Crab. Do some astrological sleuthing on your Ram; dig a little deeper. You might be pleasantly surprised.