Now here I go again, I see the crystal visions
I keep my visions to myself
It’s only me who wants to wrap around your dreams and
Have you any dreams you’d like to sell?
Dreams of loneliness like a heartbeat, drives you mad
In the stillness of remembering
What you had and what you lost
And what you had, oh what you lost… ~ Fleetwood Mac, Dreams
As we delve into the life areas covered by the final astrological Houses, we find ourselves in the Eleventh House, commonly known as the House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends. But it also governs how the native handles being in groups of people outside the home such as clubs or professional associations, as well as your goals and personal aspirations.
The Eleventh House reveals how our thoughts manifest in our lives. It also governs friendships and the support we give and receive in those relationships. Remember: the Fifth House, which is directly opposite the Eleventh House, concerns immediate pleasures and creativity that comes from within. Therefore, the Eleventh House takes a more outwardly look at long-term goals and collaborative creativity within a group.
Just for fun, let’s assume that you’re looking at your natal chart, eager to discover these facets of yourself and lo and behold, your Eleventh House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends is completely empty, containing no planets, asteroids, or nodes whatsoever. That can’t be good, right? So what does this indicate on a personal level?
I’m so sorry to tell you this, dear reader/follower. But what this means is that evidently, you have no hopes, wishes, or friends.
I kid, of course. As I’ve repeated to death in the previous ten Houses and will do so once more in the upcoming Twelfth (and final) House, there are ten planets (counting the Sun and Moon) and Twelve Houses. Now, it’s not rocket science to figure out that it’s mathematically impossible for there to be a planet, asteroid, or node in every single House in any natal chart. Everyone (this includes you…and me) will have at least two empty Houses, and most of us will have more than two empties.
In the case of an Eleventh House with little more than the occasional cricket chirping or tumbleweed blowing by, we would interpret this in a few different ways. First, let’s ask ourselves, which sign is the natural ruler of the Eleventh House? That would be the sign of Aquarius, which is also — not coincidentally — the eleventh sign of the zodiac. What are the traits of the Water Bearer? We would examine those, in addition to Uranus — Aquarius’s ruling planet — to gain some insight into how you handle the life areas governed by the Eleventh House.
Secondly, we would determine the ruler of your natal chart’s Eleventh House. Let’s say it’s Libra. We would then take a look at the characteristics of the Scales and its ruling planet, Venus, to glean even more information on the ways in which you deal with your hopes, wishes, and friendships.
It’s also entirely possible that your Eleventh House is vacant either because the life areas covered here are simply not your primary focus — and that’s okay! — or it could be that your hopes, wishes, and friendships are already so well established, ordered, and functional that a large amount of your attention is simply not needed in these areas. If this is you, I extend to you my heartiest congratulations along with both of my middle fingers.
But for the rest of us who do have planets floating around in the Eleventh House, let’s see how the effects of each manifest in our lives.
The Sun in the Eleventh House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends
Well, hello there Mr./Ms. Popularity! Wherever the Sun is in our chart is where we shine or feel the need to shine. In the Eleventh House, we have a native who makes friends wherever they go, attracting them and keeping them, often for a lifetime. This one is everybody’s friend. The Sun-in-Eleventh tends to become quickly attached to newfound chums, forming those aforementioned multiple friendships with lightning speed. But if they discover no common ground with someone, they’ll break that bond in an instant. Easily adaptable, the Eleventh House Sun can fit in anywhere, seeing everyone as equals and making an honest effort to avoid bias toward anyone. The native’s goals are set sky-high and opportunities are sought after rather than waited for. Oddly enough, this one doesn’t care much about their social status; in other words, this is the high school student who will embrace the friendships of cheerleaders, athletes, or spoiled rich kids…and outcasts, delinquents, or the proverbial underdog. Diversity and tolerance is a huge deal for this one. Curiously, unless there are negative Sun aspects in the natal chart, the native is usually quite compatible with those who have Leo Sun signs or a lot of Leo in their natal charts (Leo is ruled by the Sun.) On the downside (yeah, there actually is one), spreading oneself too thin among a large number of friends and acquaintances can cause the native to appear impersonal, in turn intimidating or discouraging others who would like to be closer to the native or get to know them better. My Scorpio daughter has this Sun placement. She has more friends than I can keep track of, and she forms friendships seemingly effortlessly. She gets that from her natal chart, not from her mother.
The Moon in the Eleventh House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends
The sensitive Moon in the House of Friendship gives a native with a strong emotional need for belonging and support from a network of friends and acquaintances. This one is more than willing to offer that same support in return as well. Like the effect of the Moon on the tides, the Moon-in-Eleventh’s social life ebbs and flows, and feelings for others wax and wane which, needless to say, can cause some serious relationship problems. The native has a heart of gold with many dreams, but their goals tend to change as frequently as their moods, resulting in difficulty attaining their desires. The Eleventh House Moon person tends to be friends with their own family members and feels a strong bond with those who share similar ideals. It’s important for the native to remember to relate to others outside their own family. This one is wonderfully intuitive and charming in their interactions with others, but they are also prone to attracting friends who are depressive or moody, as well as undesirable or unreliable friends, resulting in the native’s unintentional involvement in some kind of trouble or scandal. One of my sons has this Moon placement. He is definitely closer to his family members than non-relative friends, and he has attracted some friends of questionable character in his day; one of which got him wrapped up in a shoplifting incident (the friend was the guilty party, my son was honestly unaware of what had happened.) Luckily, my son was not prosecuted as surveillance cameras proved he didn’t know what his shady friend was up to. His goals also change with unprecedented frequency: he’s interested in forensics, then he’s talking about video game design. He has a strong need to belong but being an Aspie, finds that difficult at times. The only real, best friend he ever had with whom he truly bonded and to whom he was able to fully relate, tragically committed suicide in September 2013 which, in my book, qualifies as a depressive friend.
Mercury in the Eleventh House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends
Intellectual Mercury in this House results in an individual who is adaptable to a wide variety of people. Extremely social, Mercury-in-Eleventh has an insatiable curiosity about others, community issues, trends, cultures, you name it. This one needs friends who have something to contribute intellectually. Forward-thinking, the native is drawn to those who bring fresh ideas to the table, as well as writers, talkative folks, and those who enjoy traveling a lot. Personal goals and plans will probably change or fluctuate often, and there is a tendency to attract dishonest friends. This one is likely involved in at least one or two clubs, groups, or societies and is clever about coming up with original ideas to see their goals to fruition. However, they can also be impractical and rather cynical. The lesson here? Skepticism is healthy and encouraged. Cynicism is refusing to acknowledge the facts or the evidence in front of your face. Yeah. Don’t do that. My adoring Cancer-Gemini cusp man has this Mercury placement. He’s incredibly intellectual, talkative, and ridiculously clever when it comes to problem solving, always ready with a why-didn’t-I-think-of-that idea which never in a million years would have entered my own blonde head. No doubt he’s attracted more than his fair share of shady, con-artist (now former) friends and has only one or two true, real friends. He’s also an enigma: while he’s quite open-minded in many ways, he’s also moderately cynical, which drives. me. insane. Worse, he’s cynical about the fact that he is cynical (“I’m not cynical!” he’ll vehemently protest, even when presented with irrefutable evidence to the contrary. Aaaaah…)
Venus in the Eleventh House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends
When the planet of love and pleasure is in the Eleventh House of Friendship, there must be friendship in order to develop a romantic relationship with someone. An Eleventh House Venusian looks for unusual or unique qualities in their friends; this is what sustains their interest in the relationship. The native tends to jump into friendships impulsively without always considering the implications or the character of the person involved. The Eleventh House governs groups and group activities while Venus rules love, and a love interest will likely be met through a group or activity, and many natives will eventually marry this person. The Venus-in-Eleventh often benefits financially through their friends and group associations as well. This one knows how to be tactful, but far too often confuses friendship with love. This Venus placement promotes self-indulgence, particularly in food. The same son with the Moon in the Eleventh House also has Venus in the Eleventh House. He definitely jumps into friendships without thinking and one of his greatest pleasures is good food, particularly rich desserts.
Mars in the Eleventh House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends
Aggressive Mars in the Eleventh House of Friendship frequently indicates a native who has more than the normal number of arguments or disagreements with their comrades who, by the way, are typically quite active and assertive themselves. The native’s goals are well-defined and aggressively sought after. The Eleventh House Martian often has a lot of acquaintances but few close friends, which suits the native just fine. A born leader, this one doesn’t care to answer to authority in a group but quickly discovers that team cooperation will lead to quicker success in life.
No, I get by with a little help from my friends…
Mmm, get by with a little help from my friends…
Mmm, gonna try with a little help from my friends. ~ The Beatles, With a Little Help from My Friends
Jupiter in the Eleventh House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends
Lucky Jupiter in the Eleventh House of Friendship often attracts helpful, influential, or otherwise beneficial friends to the native. The Jupiter-in-Eleventh prizes their personal freedom and have a great deal of tolerance. Open-minded and progressive, this one genuinely wants to help the world at large become a better place. There is one caveat to this otherwise awesome Jupiter placement, however: the native often finds themselves so incredibly lucky in situations which just seem to somehow work themselves out — be it goals, wishes, dreams — that they come to depend on that luck, therefore putting forth little if any actual effort into making these things happen, assuming their hopes and dreams will magically come to them. And they often do! But guess what: there are times when that doesn’t happen. The lesson here? Yeah, you are naturally lucky in friendships, dreams, and everything else governed by the Eleventh House. But do not allow yourself to sit idly by, assuming things will just work out as they always seem to do without any effort on your part. Guess who has this Jupiter placement? (*raises hand*) That’s right. And it’s so true. I have a knack for attracting friends who can — and do — benefit me in some way. This is not to imply that I consciously seek out friends on such a shallow level. It just happens: I meet a new friend or acquaintance, we get to talking, and whaddya know — they have some kind of influence or connection which helps me in my career, or they introduce me to something else that benefits me in some way. The list is endless and it happens all the time. And I’m the first to admit that, when in a sticky situation, I am the worst at taking little action and just knowing it’ll work itself out; after all, doesn’t it always? Well, no, not really. Oftentimes, absolutely! But not every time. Yeah, I’ve really gotta work on that…
Saturn in the Eleventh House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends
There’s a saying that goes, “Saturn delays but does not deny.” If you have this Saturn placement, here’s what I want you to do. Get some Post-It notes, jot down that gem of wisdom on about 200 of ’em, and stick them all over your house. Plaster them on your car’s rearview mirror and dashboard. Write it in Sharpie on the palm of your hand. Tattoo it on your forehead backwards so you can read it every time you look in the mirror. Why? Because when the schoolyard bully of planets is in your Eleventh House of Hopes and Wishes, you are going to have to work your ass off to earn everything of which you dream and for which you hope and wish. Attaining goals is not going to come easily to this one. The native will struggle, often feeling as if they are just treading water, getting nowhere, but I implore you: keep going. Why? Because Saturn delays but does not deny! (Weren’t you listening? Pay attention!) The Eleventh House Saturnian will reach their aspirations but Saturn is a bully who throws out obstacles and delays, so it will take them longer than most people to get there…but get there they will. When they do reach the top, the rewards of their efforts will be astounding and well worth it. Guaranteed. As far as friendships are concerned, the Saturn-in-Eleventh native often seeks friends who are several years older than they are, and they probably hung around more with older friends during their childhood. The native probably doesn’t have a lot of friends, but this isn’t a bad thing. It’s a result of being a bit more discriminating when choosing with whom they prefer to associate.
Uranus in the Eleventh House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends
Eccentric, unusual Uranus in the Eleventh House of Friendships will result in a native who embraces being different and despises others who conform just to fit in, looking down upon them as being sellouts, for lack of a better term. Uranus-in-Eleventh definitely appears to be an erratic, aloof loner in group situations which can cause others to question whether or not the native can be taken seriously or depended upon. But over time they’ll realize the native is honest and open, which will be appreciated. The Eleventh House Uranian connects particularly well with those who share their offbeat, yet forward-thinking ideals, often resulting in lifelong friendships. However, friends and associations will often change as the native’s own goals do. Bottom line? Uranus, which rules the sign of Aquarius, values friendships more than just about any other sign of the zodiac and when in the Eleventh House, we have a native who is extremely devoted to their amigos through thick and thin.
Neptune in the Eleventh House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends
Anddddd it’s back. Neptune, the dreamy, see-and-hear-only-what-you-wanna-see-and-hear planet still dons its trademark rose-colored glasses in the Eleventh House. Among other things, this can lead to a native who is easily taken advantage of by so-called friends, which is a damn shame because this person is incredibly accepting, flexible, and idealistic when it comes to friendships, always pulling for the underdog or the disadvantaged. Often, they are a rescuer — taking on the problems of friends as their own, wanting to fix all that is wrong in the lives of their buddies. A Neptune-in-Eleventh just doesn’t/can’t/won’t believe that a “friend” could ever have malicious intent. At least, they don’t want to believe it. As dreamy as Neptune is, it can be difficult for the native to get in touch with their deepest desires, as Neptune also imparts confusion wherever it is placed, and this results in the native not really knowing what would make them happiest. They tend to attract unusual, eccentric, sensitive friends but the boundary is somewhat blurry when it comes to how much of themselves the native should be able or willing to give. It’s very common for the Eleventh House Neptune individual to feel used because they do give of themselves so freely. The native has extremely high ideals, very pie-in-the-sky ambitions, and they are often disappointed or discouraged when they fail to meet these lofty, unrealistic goals. The lesson here? Aim high…but not so high that what you dream of is unattainable. Be realistic about what is doable.
Pluto in the Eleventh House of Hopes, Wishes, and Friends
Intense Pluto isn’t a big fan of being part of a group. If and when they do participate, it’s likely for their own personal growth or healing, or possibly centered around social change. But in a group setting, the Eleventh House Pluto will not sit silently while others run the show, particularly if they feel they have a better idea or way of doing things. The native has a powerful presence and if Pluto is afflicted in the natal chart, others can actually feed off of this power, like psychic vampires, if you will, leaving the native feeling drained and powerless. Power issues arise in friendships when Pluto-in-Eleventh might feel as though they are being urged to make some sort of change when they really don’t want to. But inevitably, circumstances will arise which force this to happen. Pluto is the all-or-nothing planet of extremes with no happy medium. The native might not have many friends but the ones they do have will be for a lifetime. That said, if a friendship goes south, it goes all the way south (remember: no in-between with this one) and it can switch from love to hate in the blink of an eye…and stay that way. Because Pluto imparts formidable energy and power when striving to reach goals, the native will probably attain whatever it is they set out to accomplish. This is where the phrase “be careful what you wish for because you just might get it” comes in handy.